The Ultimate Guide For Analyzing Writing Rejections: How To Send, Receive and Ignore Them

A portrait of the writer as Job

Alive today, Job would be a combination of Dangote, Otedola and Elumelu. Yes, he would have all their children too. Job had a nice family, his prosperity was scaffolding. A talented writer, with publication credits here and there has wealth, a neat scaffold (editors who have said yes to your work, strangers who have validated your talent). Then one day, The Moby Dick review, with a ginger-haired editor (if you care to Google him) sends you a polite note that contains a nice assortment of the words “fit” “not” and “submit again.” That’s your temptation to curse…

The thing to remember when you get an acceptance is the number of writers who had to be turned away to make it happen for you. If you forget to note this, your ego concretizes, your expectation attains a solid foundation. This is all nice, until the next rejection shatters your brick house.

The idea of being published here and there is to accrete a sort of reputation, brick by brick, to line up your yeses, as if to say, look, these brilliant people take me seriously. But the fact that a selection of people take you seriously is not a warning to other people to take you seriously, basing their decision on the decision of those who had previously published you, who, by the way, had not consulted this latter group while choosing to publish you. And this does not, by any metric, reduce their competence. Nor should you imply it.

Publishing requires a lot of patience. Those two Ps have an enduring relationship. But, curiously, so does rejection and release. Some writers find calm in lashing out after receiving a rejection for their polished submissions. It may even be a certain kind of healthy to do this, but turning that hose in the direction of an editor is not the sensible option. I’ve heard editors say that some rejections hurt them like it hurt the writer. Not to mention, many of your favorite literary magazine editors have to submit their stuff to other literary magazine editors who have to submit their own stuff to other literary magazine editors. Rejection, then, is a wine bottle passed around. We’re all getting drunk, but that’s no excuse to break the bottle. Everyone will snap out of their states and collapse on you like a Lagos building.

I understand the itch to understand why your stuff was rejected. I understand, even, the urge to assign this ugly and urgent task to the editor. But it does no good. This query has never changed a rejection into an acceptance. Not once. If anything, depending on how you ask, it marks you as a troublesome writer. And because you can’t determine how the tone of your query is received on the other end (communication being a matter of how the decoder receives it) it is almost always safer to say nothing. If you have the grace, say thank you for getting back and leave it at that. Besides, it smacks of a well-fed naivety to not understand the quality of your submission, or its fit for the venue. If you have to ask them to tell you, you’re never going to publish there.

And, really, if one views acceptance as the thing that happens for you at the cost of rejection to other people one doesn’t know, and rejection as the thing that happens to you at the cost of acceptance for other people one doesn’t know, it is easier to shrug it off and carry on. As everybody does.

And, really, if you must lash out therapeutically, arrange for a sigidi-type statue you can punch. Have it installed right on your desk, strategically behind your computer. Hopefully your hands get stuck there long enough for the rejection email to thin out in your chest.

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Brief Bio: C.O.A  is a journalist, playwright and novelist.

Chioma Iwunze-Ibiam

Chioma Iwunze-Ibiam writes prose fiction and creative non-fiction. She is the founder of creativewritingnews.com. Her first novella, Finding Love Again was published by Ankara Press. Her second novella, The Heiress' Bodyguard was shortlisted for the Saraba Manuscript Awards. She currently works as content marketer for various online businesses. You can follow her at @cwritingnws.

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